Article Review - INFP Personality
A client sent this article to me. I read it and thought, yes, this sounds exactly like an INFP personality. But, what is next? What does a person do once they have identified their personality and is there anything that can be done to change your personality?
Well, your personality is who you are at your core- at your foundation. Your personality is shaped on built on your moral standards and who you have interacted with and how your interaction with them affect you. Often times we find ourselves becoming puzzle pieces just to help the entire picture come together - say in a social setting. Our personalities or what shines most in our personality is guided by our social group. If you want to know your personality type using the Myers Briggs Personality test, complete this test for your results.
Say for instance, you test as both an introvert and an extrovert. In a group filled with extroverts, you need not be a leader because you recognize that there are many head chefs in the kitchen and you are fine with following the leader in that social group who you agree with most OR at times who is the "loudest". However, let's say you are in a social group that is filled with introverts and no one seems to be taking charge. You may take charge.
You know how the I and the E would be reflected in an individual with INFP or even ENFP personalities, but let's flesh out the NFP. The "N" stands for Intuition. While using one's intuition can be beneficial and is even said to be similar to having that "gut feeling" about something, it's not the most accurate way to assess situations. It is based upon that individual's perspective and your perspective is subjective. Now, there's nothing wrong when you have no data or facts to use your best notion, but to make the majority of your decisions that way is not best practices nor recommended when data does exist.
"F" stands for feeling and here's where it gets interesting. A person with thinking personality is often times considered level-headed and likes to look at situations very logically. While if you are a feeling personality, you make decisions based on how you feel. This means you are emphatic towards others and you often times confirm to others way of things because you want everyone to get along. You may even evade social interactions to avoid having to make a decision to confirm to any particular group of individuals, one way or the other.
Finally, "P" stands for perceiving so you prefer to leave your options open versus the judging personal who prefers to live in accordance with the rules and regulations. You prefer issues to be resolved because you believe they can be and you want world peace! P should really stand for peace, which is an awesome thing, but what happens is that it comes at the expense of and INFP personality giving so much of themselves to others that they are not able to live out their true and authentic best life.
While, I understand the tones of the article and its perceptions, INFP personalities can find that happy medium without allowing their emphatic side bolster others while their needs and desires get swept up and blown away in gusting winds. There is hope though. I speak on resilience often times. Mostly, because it tends to be the foundation of not just coping but thriving in life. There are no perfect situations. Even an optimist is aware of that. What resilience does it teach you how to emotionally manage situations you experience. I can perhaps address this further when I speak on emotional intelligence and how it affects overt aggression; but that's another blog post for another day.
If you find difficulty with building your resilience, which is different than getting over a bad experience or just dealing with it, then seek therapy from a licensed counselor in your state. I provide tele-therapy via this link if you ever need to see a licensed counselor or a life coach (for those individuals living outside Maryland and West Virginia - where I am currently independently licensed) Maybe you have other issues that are not directly related to INFP personality. If so, feel free to browse my website here to learn about my specialties. I hope I can serve you. Happy Thursday!
Well, your personality is who you are at your core- at your foundation. Your personality is shaped on built on your moral standards and who you have interacted with and how your interaction with them affect you. Often times we find ourselves becoming puzzle pieces just to help the entire picture come together - say in a social setting. Our personalities or what shines most in our personality is guided by our social group. If you want to know your personality type using the Myers Briggs Personality test, complete this test for your results.
Say for instance, you test as both an introvert and an extrovert. In a group filled with extroverts, you need not be a leader because you recognize that there are many head chefs in the kitchen and you are fine with following the leader in that social group who you agree with most OR at times who is the "loudest". However, let's say you are in a social group that is filled with introverts and no one seems to be taking charge. You may take charge.
You know how the I and the E would be reflected in an individual with INFP or even ENFP personalities, but let's flesh out the NFP. The "N" stands for Intuition. While using one's intuition can be beneficial and is even said to be similar to having that "gut feeling" about something, it's not the most accurate way to assess situations. It is based upon that individual's perspective and your perspective is subjective. Now, there's nothing wrong when you have no data or facts to use your best notion, but to make the majority of your decisions that way is not best practices nor recommended when data does exist.
"F" stands for feeling and here's where it gets interesting. A person with thinking personality is often times considered level-headed and likes to look at situations very logically. While if you are a feeling personality, you make decisions based on how you feel. This means you are emphatic towards others and you often times confirm to others way of things because you want everyone to get along. You may even evade social interactions to avoid having to make a decision to confirm to any particular group of individuals, one way or the other.
Finally, "P" stands for perceiving so you prefer to leave your options open versus the judging personal who prefers to live in accordance with the rules and regulations. You prefer issues to be resolved because you believe they can be and you want world peace! P should really stand for peace, which is an awesome thing, but what happens is that it comes at the expense of and INFP personality giving so much of themselves to others that they are not able to live out their true and authentic best life.
While, I understand the tones of the article and its perceptions, INFP personalities can find that happy medium without allowing their emphatic side bolster others while their needs and desires get swept up and blown away in gusting winds. There is hope though. I speak on resilience often times. Mostly, because it tends to be the foundation of not just coping but thriving in life. There are no perfect situations. Even an optimist is aware of that. What resilience does it teach you how to emotionally manage situations you experience. I can perhaps address this further when I speak on emotional intelligence and how it affects overt aggression; but that's another blog post for another day.
If you find difficulty with building your resilience, which is different than getting over a bad experience or just dealing with it, then seek therapy from a licensed counselor in your state. I provide tele-therapy via this link if you ever need to see a licensed counselor or a life coach (for those individuals living outside Maryland and West Virginia - where I am currently independently licensed) Maybe you have other issues that are not directly related to INFP personality. If so, feel free to browse my website here to learn about my specialties. I hope I can serve you. Happy Thursday!
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