My wife's secret

"My wife just told me that she has a secret and she wants me to forgive her for it before she tells me. I think this is stupid, but if I say that she will not want to share her secret. I think she has been cheating on me. I have no evidence, even though I have looked through her iPad. That doesn’t mean that she is not cheating. It only means I haven’t found anything. How should I approach this conversation with her. She wants to talk to me when she returns from her business trip. I’m on pins and needles waiting for this ominous meeting.” Nervous in Nevada

Hello Nevada, 

While you should prepare yourself for the worst, you should anticipate the best as well. It is good to come to the conversation with an open mind and heart ready to receive the information your wife wants to share. If it is hurtful information, I hope it is something that you can manage and in time respond. Remember to respond cautiously to avoid saying something you will later regret. She could be sharing something positive as well. I do understand how this ‘upcoming talk’ has placed you in the anxious seat, but let’s wait to see what it is before responding and engaging in behaviors that you otherwise would regret. Try some breathing exercises. I hope this message reaches you in time for your meeting.