Why I cheated on my husband

‘I cheated on my husband and i don’t have any regrets. I’ve been married for 3 yrs to the love of my life. We have a 2-yr old baby boy. I work full-time and so does my husband. He works so much that I rarely see him. It feels like I am raising our son in my own. My husband wants another child but I refuse to because he is not at home to help me with our baby boy and I feel neglected. We have sex when he does come home but his shifts are a lot to keep up with and often times I’m left alone with our son. I have needs too! I’ve been flirting with a colleague for a few months and we had sex in my office quite a few times. He makes me feel desired. I have not felt that in years. I crave that affection and the gratification I get when I climax. I don’t think I love this guy or anything but I’m getting to a point where I don’t miss my husband sexually. It almost makes my home life bearable. I know it’s wrong. There’s not much stopping from continuing with my affair. Is there?’

-Cheating in California-

Dear California,

I don’t have a full grasp of the entire picture so I may not be able to identify specific pros/cons to your situation. What I will say is that the answer to your question is based on this question. Is this affair worth breaking up your family and/or losing your family? 

Sometimes it’s best to make decisions for ourselves and sometimes it’s best to make decisions to satisfy the whole. The whole in this case is your family. Choose your destiny.